Accepting vs Resisting
Have you ever heard the phrase, “What you resist, persists”? Fighting, denying, or dwelling in shame or regret is resisting what actually is, now in this moment. To diffuse uncomfortable feelings, we can greet our resistance and our insecurities with loving kindness. We don’t have to feel bad about feeling uncomfortable or uncertain about some things. When we accept our situation and feelings, exactly as they are now, we can gain the awareness to make actual change. Here’re some examples of accepting vs resisting:
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Resisting: I feel nervous. I’m probably going to mess everything up. Accepting: I feel nervous. I have big feelings about this because it’s important to me. Resisting: I have low energy. I’m frustrated, I can’t believe I feel so lame. I must be falling apart. Accepting: I have low energy. It’s natural for feelings to fluctuate, and I’m reflecting and learning what I could do to make healthier choices for higher energy. Resisting: I feel insecure. I don’t like _______ about myself. I’m horrified, everyone is going to judge me. I need to improve this immediately to be acceptable, to be good enough. Accepting: I feel insecure, I don’t like _______ about myself. What do I truly value in a person? I have lots of wonderful attributes. Would I make these same judgments of a close friend? Would my friends make these judgements about me? |